1-800-civilization

If someone is explaining to you how their mental disability/specific experiences affect their daily life, it is NOT HELPFUL OR CONSIDERATE to say “yeah but I think that’s true for lots of people”

1-800-civilization:

or “yeah but everyone feels like that sometimes” because who fucking cares how neurotypical people feel sometimes?? The point I was making is that I feel like this all the time and I’m not gonna stand here and listen to you disregard my specific conditions/experiences as nothing more than an everyday, common annoyance. 

notorious-baby
  • Parents: *dismiss my goals and aspirations as 'crazy' 'stupid' 'impossible' and 'childish'*
  • Parents: *refuse to accept me for who I am and insist that I try and change parts of myself that are not in my control and ability to change*
  • Parents: *make fun of me constantly, call me names, insult me, verbally abuse me*
  • Parents: *are so clingy and over absorbed in my life that I'm afraid to tell them anything about my life because of their lack of respect for my boundaries and personal life*
  • Parents: *break their promises, share my secrets, and go behind my back so many times that I develop major trust and commitment issues that impede my relationships outside of family as well*
  • Parents: *make me so reluctant to be in my own home that I avoid having to spend time in my house, become super clingy with friends, and take every chance I can to go out and about even when I'd rather be resting on my own*
  • Parents: *cause me to develop anxiety and then tell me that I'm 'only doing it for attention' and call me 'lazy, immature, psycho, ridiculous, pathetic, crazy, etc.'*
  • Parents: *disregard and dismiss all my choices and opinions, invalidate my values and my thoughts and feelings*
  • Parents: *treat me like shit, make me feel worthless, make my own home an unsafe space*
  • Me: I've thought long and hard about this, I've felt this way for a very long time, and I've come to the decision that when I graduate from high school I will no longer keep in contact or have any relationship with my family.
  • Parents: But how could you say that, why don't you want to have a relationship with us when we've treated you with nothing but kindness and respect?!?!
melindasordinos

"I’ve been marathoning Twilight movies all day, which has been totally enjoyable…and I’m thinking about how easy it becomes to dehumanize the creator or fans of something extremely popular. I’ve done this, too. I made fun of the Twilight movies without even having watched them. I’m sorry for that, and embarrassed. When we make fun of Twilight, we’re ridiculing the enthusiasm people have for unironic love stories. Have we nothing better to satirize? Yes, you can read misogynistic gender dynamics into the stories, but tens of millions of people have also proven that you don’t HAVE to. Do we really believe that tens of millions of people who found themselves comforted and inspired by these stories are merely wrong? Isn’t our disdain FAR more misogynistic than anything in the stories? Art that is entertaining and useful to people is a good thing to have in this world. And I’m grateful for it and celebrate it. So big ups to the Twilight fandom, and to Stephenie Meyer, who has been relentlessly attacked professionally and personally over Twilight…in ways that male authors of love stories never are. I’m gonna go back to watching the movies now. /rant”
- John Green

"I’ve been marathoning Twilight movies all day, which has been totally enjoyable…
and I’m thinking about how easy it becomes to dehumanize the creator or fans of something extremely popular. I’ve done this, too. I made fun of the Twilight movies without even having watched them. I’m sorry for that, and embarrassed. When we make fun of Twilight, we’re ridiculing the enthusiasm people have for unironic love stories. Have we nothing better to satirize? Yes, you can read misogynistic gender dynamics into the stories, but tens of millions of people have also proven that you don’t HAVE to. Do we really believe that tens of millions of people who found themselves comforted and inspired by these stories are merely wrong? Isn’t our disdain FAR more misogynistic than anything in the stories? Art that is entertaining and useful to people is a good thing to have in this world. And I’m grateful for it and celebrate it. So big ups to the Twilight fandom, and to Stephenie Meyer, who has been relentlessly attacked professionally and personally over Twilight…in ways that male authors of love stories never are. I’m gonna go back to watching the movies now. /rant”

- John Green